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RULES FOR
THE DEVELOPMENT
OF THE PERSON  (circa 1905)

1. Endeavor to develop erect, graceful carriage.

2. Keep clothing clean, brushed and pressed, and shoes clean and polished.

3. Practice working and playing vigorously.

4. Take for granted the friendliness of others. Don't wait for them to speak first.

5. Keep a written record of acquaintances, making it a point to meet new ones to keep the list growing.

6. Help others to get acquainted.

7. Go out of your way to cheer up anyone who may be ill.

8. Study to do the little things that others like; and show your pleasure in doing them.

9. Show special consideration for the helpless and infirm.

10. In public functions be where the hard work is being done, when it is being done; and try to do your part.

11. Practice putting your whole soul into what you do.

12. Hold yourself to the faithful performance without postponement of tasks that are distasteful.

13. Study your own mistakes to determine how they might have been avoided.

14. Study the personal qualities of effective leaders. To this end, cultivate their friendship as far as possible.

15. Take advantage of opportunities to appear in public, as in leading meetings or taking part in programs.

16. Contribute your ideas in conversation and discussion, if such ideas are good enough to command others' respect.

17. Endeavor to overcome objectionable mannerisms.

18. When appearing before others, look them in the face, and in the eye.

19. In group activities, endeavor to contribute more than you get.

20. Make a list of the things you think you can do better than the average person. Review it occasionally.

21. Try consciously to keep your feelings "in tune" with the feelings of those about you.

22. Refrain from hurting the feelings of another person, no matter how little he is, or how little you favor him.

23. Watch for and seize upon opportunities to do favors unasked.

24. Sacrifice, within reason, personal advantage when it stands clearly in the way of the welfare of the group.

25. Put cooperation in place of competition. Do not disparage others, but help and encourage them instead.

26. Study the needs and interests of others.

27. Inform yourself before condemning.

28. In cases of disagreement, try to get and consider sympathetically the other persons' viewpoint.

29. If contention comes, let it always be good natured.

30. Treat mere differences of opinion as trivial matters to be dismissed quickly from mind.

31. Practice blindness to other's faults, looking always for their good qualities instead.

32. Resist the temptation to become ruffled with chronic faultfinding, and school yourself in tolerance.

33. Do not oppose the ideas of others but substitute better ones.

34. Lead others to your view by questions, rather than arbitrary statements or argumentation.

35. Study thoughtfully particular situations in which others exhibit tact, or fail to do so.

36. Suggest rather than command or demand.

37. Conceal unpleasant feelings.

38. Overcome the temptation to give way to anger.

39. Keep grievances to yourself when tempted to recite them to others.

40. Admit your mistakes; avoid "alibis".

41. Do committee work when possible.

42. Force yourself to do things you should do but are afraid you cannot do.

43. Search for the bright side of things which look dark.

44. Banish troubles quickly. Do not inflict them upon your friends, or allow the sun to set on them.

45. Practice introducing new topics of conversation with small groups.

46. Avoid making promises that you cannot fulfill.

47. Never fail to keep appointments and promises.

48. Endeavor consciously to find new and better ways of doing ordinary things.

49. Give credit without fail to the proper persons and sources.

50. Make a sincere effort to develop appreciation of good music, literature, art, & etcetera.

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